The one thing you need to do before setting powerful goals
You know what? I love to reverse-engineer things. Like figuring out how to tackle a project based on a fixed budget, or how to whip up a delicious dinner out of the few ingredients left in the fridge.
Today we are going to reverse-engineer the #1 reason people supposedly fail at reaching goals, or let’s rather say, the #1 reason you will never fail again!
Now who wouldn’t want to know? Let’s dive right in!
THEY ALL AGREE ON THIS:
Every life coach, motivational speaker and failed person out there is going to agree on this one:
There’s only one thing that decides on you going after a goal until it’s achieved or giving up on the way there. And that one thing is: YOUR WHY!
A clear and strong reason why you want to achieve something is the single most important fuel you’ll ever need. EVER.
A strong reason why means one thing: NOT achieving that goal will not be an option. So you’ll do anything in your power to get to the other side. You’ll always get back up after a misstep, you’ll jump over any roadblock and you’ll try over and over until you get it done.
Most successful people even say that they didn’t even have a real plan in the beginning. They only had this fixed image in their mind and the strongest will you could imagine. That’s it.
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WHAT HAPPENS TO OUR MINDS ONCE WE HAVE THAT BIG WHY:
The human mind is an incredible creature.
And it’s best and worst quality is that it’s totally blind. It can’t distinguish between our inner and our outer world. So whatever thoughts we are thinking: for our mind - they’re the REAL DEAL.
Which is a disadvantage if you’re having the worst case scenario on loop up there. But it’s the most powerful feature if you learn how to use your mind as your creation board.
The thing about having that strong why is that it creates a fix image in your mind of you already having achieved your goal.
So for example: let’s say your BIG WHY is being healthier and fitter. And let’s assume that for you, running a marathon represents being exactly that - healthy and fit.
If your why is big and strong enough, you’ll have an image of you running through that finish line at a marathon.
Your brain collects all the images you’ve seen during your life. And if for some reason, through your experiences in life and memories you’ve collected, you connect running a marathon with being the healthiest and fittest version of yourself, that’s the image your brain will provoke. It’s an automatic thing. Almost no intentional work needed on your conscious mind.
So once your brain has that fixed image of you running a marathon as the big goal, that’s where the magic starts to happen. Remember: your brain thinks of that image as THE REALITY of things.
So it will start acting as if you running a marathon has already happened!
I’m not saying that you suddenly wake up one morning fit as hell and all ready to actually RUN A MARATHON.
But you’ll start to think like an athlete.
Making the necessary changes in diet and exercise now will seem much easier.
Your focus will be easier to maintain.
Getting up to practice will be almost automatic.
And so on.
And most importantly, your motivation will be endless. Like a motor running on autopilot.
HOW TO FIND YOUR BIG WHY
Now we’re coming to the reverse-engineer part. Are you excited? I know this exercise gets me excited every time! Some of my clients get this part right away, others need a few attempts to get into the flow. Don’t get too worried if this exercise doesn’t come naturally to you, you’ll get there, I promise.
I want you to take out your journal and describe or sit down and meditate on the following scene. Journaling may take longer, but I prefer it because you can go back and re-read immediately.
Picture your absolute dream life! I want you to pay attention to details:
Where are you? What’s the temperature? Are you in a room or outside?
What’s the occasion? Work? Family breakfast? Hiking alone in the woods?
Who’s with you? How are you interacting? Talking? Hugging? Laughing?
How are you feeling? Loved? Joyful? Excited? Hopeful?
You should get as detailed as you can:
- Maybe it’s raining.
- Maybe you get details of what you’re wearing or how you’re looking.
- Maybe you’ll notice you’re breathing easily?
Let your mind take over and don’t get too caught up in wondering WHY you’re seeing what you’re seeing. Just keep writing or meditating.
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Now to the crucial part. Once you’re clear on that scenery of your dream life, you need to go deeper and find out WHY this is your dream life:
Why are you where you are?
Why’s the temperature like that?
Why are you in that room, or outside…?
Take all the details you’ve written down or seen in front of you and figure out why it's in your dream life scenery.
Analyze all the reasons you wrote down. Look for patterns. And find out which one of these whys makes you the most excited!!
THAT’S THE ONE! OR TWO OR THREE! YOUR BIG WHY(S)!
THE ALTERNATIVE "DAYDREAM YOUR DREAM DAY" EXERCISE
If you're having trouble figuring out what your dream life looks like, you could start with THIS popular and pretty easy exercise:
It's called the "Daydream your dream day" exercise. And it's about exactly what it's called. Instead of dreaming about your LIFE, you take it one step back and dream about how you would LOVE to spend your days!
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I want you to leave you with another amazing quote by one of my favorite motivational speakers, Simon Sinek:
WHEN TO RETHINK, REDISCOVER & READJUST
As you can see, you BIG WHY, once you found it, is the fuel you need to achieve whatever you set your mind to do!
By the way:
Your why may also vary or change from time to time. That's ok and NORMAL! So you should keep journaling or meditating on it regularly.
Especially when you notice that you've lost your way - that's when you KNOW it's time to rethink, rediscover and readjust accordingly!
That's it for today! Now tell me one thing: have you ever had a goal that was supported by such a big why that you got there by autopilot? Let our other readers know it's possible by sharing your story in the comments!
Have an incredibly good day!