3 astonishing happiness goals that will change your life forever
When people think about wanting to be happier, they usually think about improving their confidence, loving themselves more or maybe improving their work-life balance.
I am here today to show you three surprising areas to improve that are tightly intertwined with you being happier. Things that are almost overlooked when it comes to living a life that is filled with joy, intention, and love.
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BEING & SHOWING UP LIKE YOURSELF
A lot of people see these two things as a cliche. People who dress up are narcissists, self-centered or even vain.
And people who talk with confidence and self-worth are puffed up, arrogant or maybe even know-it-alls.
I’ve been on the judgers side for A LONG TIME!
But the truth is that those people are full of self-love and self-confidence. They know their worth and they express themselves like they really mean it.
A few examples here:
Look at your closet right now: I want you to pull out all the clothes that get you really excited! I mean like “Oh, look! This is the beautiful sweater I bought 2 years ago! And it’s still en vogue and still classy!”
Imagine it’s morning and you’re about to leave the house. You take a last look in the mirror. How many times do you think: “Oh man I love this jeans.” Or skirt, or sweater or earrings. You should look at yourself and feel GOOD!
Think about the times you were complimented for a new clothing item. Was your answer: “Oh, it was a price dump!” or “I got it super cheap in sale!”
Think about a time where you were discussing a certain topic with friends or collegues...how openly do you say your opinion? I mean you TRUE opinion. Not the one you THINK anyone wants to hear…
Reading through these 4 examples - how many of them do feel I caught you with? If it’s more than one or two, you should consider taking the time to really find out a few things:
How do you want to dress? What kind of clothing are you attracted to and why are you too afraid to wear it?
How do you take care of your body? Do you feed it well, give it enough movement and rest (aka sleep)? If you don’t feel at home in your body, you need to adress that. Journaling about your relationship with your body or using affirmations every day might really help with this issue!
Do you really show the world your real you? If not, why not? If you’re scared of being judged, you might be living someone else’s life! You should consider writing down your real visions for your life and them make sure you go after them every day! Because if there’s something I know for sure is that you CAN DO IT!
THE WAY YOU TREAT YOUR HOME
Have you ever seen the way people treat their religious spaces like churches or temples? They keep them impeccable. And why do you think that is? Because they want to treat these spaces with the respect and the care that they deserve. For being a representation of who they are and what they believe in.
With that being said, let’s compare this to our everyday homes. Many of us treat those as literal trash cans. We keep everything that comes our way just in case we might need it anytime, which is later rather than sooner. And we see cleaning as a CHORE. When it should actually be an honor. A sign of you taking care of YOUR temple.
I used to be one of those people! And I felt miserable. Everytime I got home I cringed because there were piles of THINGS waiting for me to be stashed away. I was a regular on all Pinterest boards that could tell me how to “organize” things. And I didn’t really LOVE my home. In realtor aspects it had everything we could’ve asked for. Enought space, two bathrooms, balcony, backyard. And yet, I didn’t like it. I was always behind on household chores because I hated them. And I always wanted to change things up, but never really got to it “because life is so busy right now…”.
Well, guess what? There was plenty of time. And there was plenty of opportunity. The reason I was feeling so unhappy with our home was because I was looking at it from a place of LACK! Instead of seeing all that it had and offered to us, I was always thinking about the things I wanted to CHANGE! Instead of being proud of having such a beautiful home, I would bitch about all the things I had to clean…
That mindset didn’t help…
Can you relate to this? Don’t worry. Here’s what you can do:
Redefine each space in your home. How do you want to feel when you step into it? What purpose do you want it to have? What family members are going to use it? The reason why I want you to do it is that the more you know what you want to do in a room, the less the chance it will be a meeting space for clutter later on.
Next step is to declutter! I am talking literally here when I say that I want you to take EVERY.PIECE.YOU.OWN into your hands and then decide if you really use it on a regular basis or if it makes you feel excited. Do you really need all the CDs or do you just keep them because they remind you of a certain moment? Start digitalizing or streaming! Do you really need all the different kitchen items just in case you need them 2 years from now? Spoiler alert: you don’t. You might not get a pro the first time. But trust me, the more you declutter, the more you’re going to LOVE getting rid of stuff. At the end of the decluttering madness, the goal is that every item you have left has a purpose and most importantly - a home. You’ll know exactly where it goes.
You need a cleaning schedule. And most of all you need to start looking at cleaning and tidying up as something that will help you take care of your home. Once you LOVE everything in it, it will be easier to clean up because you’ll be excited about the things being clean. And about the feeling you get everytime you come home.
Our family cleans around 1 hour each day. That’s the total. We always split up the tasks between everyone, so that no-one has to do the whole thing!
So, what do you think? Does it feel like you want to give this a try? Don’t worry, I’ve got you covered:
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THE WAY YOU LOOK AT & TREAT YOUR ORIGINS
Family. For some lucky of us, it’s our safety net, a place of rest and recharge. A place of love. But there are some people who haven’t been that lucky. People who suffer from the marks their family members left on their souls and in their minds.
Today I am here to let you know that whatever your history, you should be thankful for them sculpting you into the person you are today. And that should be your focus. Because your good times will be your safety net memories and your bad times will turn into the stepping stones of your growth.
Some people decide to leave their family behind. And some see their friends as their chosen family. Both ways are totally valid.
But in case you still have your family in your life and are having trouble getting along, here are some things you can do:
Think about the relationship you WANT to have with your family. Make it detailed. Do you want to meet them more often? Do you want them to support you and your way of life more? Do you want them to accept you? Do you want your meetings to be less stressful? Do you want them to be more memorable? Whatever it is. Get clear on it and WRITE THAT STUFF DOWN!
Now that you know what you actually want from your family, go talk to them. They will never have the opportunity to actually do something for you if you never talk to them about what you really want. No matter how easy or hard your family is to talk to, you should give it a try. You might be surprise at what you get out of that talk.
Be to them what you want them to be for you. If you want less gossip, stop gossiping yourself. If you notice they start gossiping, change the conversation. Talk to them about good things. If you want to see them more often - invite them over more often. They might not know you want to see them more often. They might be afraid to get on your nerves if they ask to see you too much. If you want them to support you more, make the first step and ask them if you can help them with something. Ask them how they need support. And by the way: you could start improving your relationship by asking THEM if they would want to improve your relationship. Maybe they’re not happy either and have been afraid to talk to you about it.
The bottom line is this: yes, you’re stuck with your biological family, want it or not. But if you’re not happy with the way things are between you, you won’t change it by just complaining about it. There is a ton of things you can do. Especially if you start changing YOUR behavior FIRST!
Now, gorgeous. I know you’re ready! But tell me this first: Which one of these 3 things are you mastering already? And which one surprised you the most? I’d love to know more about my readers, so tell me in the comments.
I really hope this post showed you a few things you can work on if you want to live a happy and fulfilled life!
That’s it from me for today!
Have an incredibly good day!
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